ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴡᴏᴜʟᴅ ɪ ɢɪᴠᴇ ғᴏʀ ᴀ ᴘʟᴀʏʙᴏʏ ᴡʜᴏ ᴄᴏᴜʟᴅɴ’ᴛ ᴋᴇᴇᴘ ɪᴛ ɪɴ ʜɪs ᴘᴀɴᴛs ᴀɴᴅ ᴡʜᴏ ʀᴜɴs ᴛʜʀᴏᴜɢʜ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ, ʙᴜᴛ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ… ɪs ᴀ sᴏɴ ᴡʜᴏ sʜᴏᴡs ɴᴏ ɪɴᴛᴇʀᴇsᴛ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇᴍ. ʏᴏᴜ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ɪ ᴅɪᴅɴ’ᴛ ᴋɴᴏᴡ? ᴡʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏ ᴀᴛ ɴɪɢʜᴛ ᴡɪᴛʜ ʏᴏᴜʀ ʙᴏʏs ᴀғᴛᴇʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ sʜᴏᴡ ᴏғ sᴋɪʀᴛ ᴄʜᴀsɪɴɢ ɪs ᴀ ᴅɪsɢʀᴀᴄᴇ. ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴɴᴏᴛ ʙᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɢᴏᴅ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ɪғ ʏᴏᴜ ᴍᴇᴀɴ ᴛᴏ ᴛᴀᴋᴇ ᴍʏ ᴘʟᴀᴄᴇ.
Blood Swept Lands and Seas of Red, Tower of London. Marking 100 year anniversary of the First World War.
Taken by Julia.
things i told the internet, but didn’t tell my mom, 2013
"a series examining the way that daily blogging for the last six years has changed my concept of privacy. each phrase was directly taken from something that i posted online, but never talked about in person."
Today, we get our first glimpse of Paul Dano as Brian Wilson in the forthcoming biopic about The Beach Boys legend, Love and Mercy.
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
important read for everyone
my aesthetic: a potted cactus on a skateboard, always moving, no one knows where it came from or where it’s going
h/t to amomenttothink for retweeting this.
samuel french (the publishing house, not the dead publisher himself) is calling me. what a weird experience.